WORDS to the WISE…

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A husband looking through the paper came upon a study that said women use more words than men. It read, “Men use about 15,000 words per day, but women use 30,000.”

Excited to prove to his wife that he had been right all along when he accused her of talking too much, he showed her the study results.

The wife thought for a while, then finally she said to her husband, “It’s because we have to repeat everything we say.”

The husband said “What?”


14 Fatal Online Dating Errors…Mistakes that women make…

Recently, I was coaching a woman on how to write her profile for Yahoo! Personals. Before we wrote the profile, I asked her to send me her four best pictures.

Recently I was coaching a woman on how to write her profile for Yahoo! Personals. Before we wrote the profile, I asked her to send me her four best pictures.

I asked her to do this because men are as visual as Scooby Doo on steroids. The first thing they do when they see your profile online is NOT read about your trip to Italy last summer. They want to see how hot you are. Keep in mind that every man has different taste in women. What I find attractive, my friend may not find attractive at all.

So I explained this to my client, and I asked her to send me her four best photos, pictures that represent who she is in her life. What she sent me is mistake #1 of the biggest mistakes women make online.

Here are the 14 biggest online dating mistakes women make:

1. Stop posting four different photos from four different stages in your life. This leaves a man wondering, “Who is this person?” I’ve looked through thousands of online profiles, and the majority of women will put up pictures from different stages of their life but not put up current pictures. All photos that you post on an online dating profile MUST BE CURRENT!!! He’s going to find out what you look like when you meet, and there is no reason to lie about your looks.

2. Don’t list your dislikes about Internet dating in bold, capital letters at the beginning of your profile. We’ve all had negative experiences online. Emphasize your positive points, not your negative ones.

3. List your exact body type. It seems like on the Internet EVERYBODY is “athletic and toned,” “petite” or “fit and trim.”
He will find out what you look like! You might as well tell the truth in your profile, so you’ll have a qualified lead and not waste somebody’s time.

4. List your real age. In the world of Internet dating, it seems like there’s an abundance of 29- and 39-year-old women. “29” usually means somewhere in your 30’s. And a woman who is “39” is usually in her 40’s. Why start a potential relationship on a lie? Men are guilty of the same thing, and I advise them the same way.

5. I’m really glad you had a great time on your vacation, but you don’t need to post 10 photos of your trip to Italy WITHOUT you in them. This is a dating site, not a trip advisor. Also, stop posting pictures of you skydiving, winter skiing, waterskiing, or doing anything else where we can’t see what you look like in the picture.

6. Keep your profile short and to the point. Make your paragraphs very short. I’ve seen too many women’s profiles that look like romance novels. Take a look at Yahoo! Sports and read an article in the sports section.
All paragraphs are short so men can digest that information in short bursts.

7. Don’t be so self-absorbed. I’ve seen many women’s profiles that say, “I want a man to be this,” “I want a man to do that,” “I want a man to cherish me,” “I want a man to adore me”… You list all your “I wants” without listing what YOU will bring to the relationship. So you end up looking like you’re a taker and not a giver. No man wants to be with a taker; he wants to be with someone who’s equally willing to give and to receive.

8. Don’t list your financial desires like you’re posting a want ad. I’ve seen too many women write, “I’m looking for a man who will spoil me, buy me great things, and take me on great trips.” You come across as a gold digger. Instead say, “I like the finer things in life to share with somebody,” so you don’t come across so harsh.

9. No baby talk! Even if the number one priority in your life is to be a mother, nothing scares a man off more than if you write in your profile about how badly you want kids. He may feel the same way, but he is going to think, “This woman will marry anybody to have kids.” Write something a little more toned down like, “Families are important to me, and I can’t wait to meet my special man so I can start a family.” This shows you’re selective and not just looking for someone with whom to make a kid.

10. Stop listing all your rules. Don’t write things like “A perfect first date MUST be dinner” or “The man I date HAS to wear suits.” Women tend to list rules in their profiles. Be open to a different kind of first date, or the kind of guy who wears jeans to work.

11. Stop sending winks. When is the last time you went to the supermarket, saw a cute guy and winked at him? Winks went out of style when “Happy Days” went off the air. You don’t like it when men send you a wink. You think it makes him seem lazy and like he didn’t read your profile. We think the same thing! So stop winking and start typing.

12. If you write to a man and he doesn’t write you back, don’t write a nasty follow-up email and ask him why he didn’t write you back. If a man doesn’t respond to you, it’s the same thing as when you don’t write a man back. It means that he is not interested. Don’t get angry, just find another person.

13. We know you’re looking at us, because we see that you’ve viewed our profile every day. Say “hello!” We’re not going to bite. Lob that email in.
Take a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you’re most attracted. You never know what might happen!

14. If a guy who you’re interested in writes to you, stop playing games and write him back right away. Don’t make him wait four days. He may find someone else in the time you wait to write him back. Keep the momentum going!
I have found when online dating that if you’re honest about who you are, and you get back to people immediately, you’ll get the date faster and avoid all the back and forth games that go on. Now go change that profile!
Thank you David Wygant or davidwygant.com

Sounds like some good advise to me Baby Boomers…I am going to change my personal ad right now…see ya i the “funny papers.”
~The Baby Boomer Queen~


WORDS for the WISE…

gewgaw \G(Y)OO-gaw\ (noun) – A showy trifle; a trinket; a bauble.

“Many in the office felt that new secretary’s tendency to be festooned with gewgaws, as well as her gaudy makeup, reflected poorly on the company’s image.”

The origin of gewgaw is uncertain.


Word to the Wise: Dour

“Dour” (DOO-ur) – From the Latin for “hard” – means, harsh, sullen, or inflexible.

Example (as used by Tim Hilton in John Ruskin: The Later Years): “John James Ruskin’s dinner table was far too lively for the dour John La Touche.”


321439844_61821e6344_m.jpgWord to the Wise: Dissimulate

To “dissimulate” (dih-SIM-yuh-late) – from the Latin for “conceal” – is to hide one’s feelings or intentions.


Example (as used by Axel Munthe in The Story of San Michele): “The dog cannot dissimulate, cannot deceive, cannot lie because he cannot speak.”


Word to the Wise: Ostensible

Something that’s “ostensible” (ah-STEN-suh-bul) – from the Latin for “to show” – appears to be true, but is not necessarily so.

Example (as used in an article in The Economist): “After an epidemic of yellow fever in 1798, in which coffins had been sold by itinerant vendors on street corners, [Aaron] Burr established the Manhattan Company, with the ostensible aim of bringing clean water to the city from the Bronx River but in fact designed as a front for the creation of New York’s second bank, rivalling [Alexander] Hamilton’s Bank of New York.”

Baby Boomer Finally GRADUATES…


The first day of school our Professor introduced himself and challenged
us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look
around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.

I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me
with a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, “Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old.
Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of
course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.

“Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.

She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married,
and have a couple of kids.”

“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to
be taking on this challenge at her age.

“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting
one!” she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a
chocolate Milkshake.

We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would
leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized
listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with


Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily
made friends wherever she went.

She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon
her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football
banquet I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and
stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she
dropped her three by five cards on the floor.

Frustrated and a little embarrassed

She leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so
jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never
get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.”


As we laughed she cleared her throat and began,
“We do not stop playing
because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are
only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success.
You have to laugh and find humor every day.

You’ve got to have a dream.
When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking
around who are dead and don’t even know it!

There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie
in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will
turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for
a year and never do anything I will turn eighty eight. Anybody can
grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow
up by always finding opportunity in change.

Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we
did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.”

She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.”

She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our
daily lives.

At the year’s end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all
those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to
the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be
all you can possibly be.

These Words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.


We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.

God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. If God brings you to
it, He will bring you through it.


“Good friends are like stars……..You don’t always see them, but you
know they are always there.
This was sent to me by a friend…I don’t know who wrote it…but I thought some of you might enjoy it.

~The Baby Boomer Queen~

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